The ABC's of Overpowering Your Negative Self-Talk
Let me first get this off my chest. YOU ARE AMAZING! YOU ARE BETTER THAN YOU EVER THINK YOU COULD BE! THERE IS GREATNESS WITHIN YOU! YOU HAVE LIMITLESS POTENTIAL HIDDEN INSIDE YOU THAT YOU'VE NOT BEGUN TO TAP INTO! GO FOR IT!!!
Let's be real here. Most of you reading this have negative self-talk going through your head THIS VERY MOMENT, don't you? Did you know, when it comes to believing in ourselves, we believe what we've been conditioned to believe based on our cumulative life experiences up until this point? Yep. It's true. Most people would rather stay in their comfort zones than go after that one thing they really want but are too afraid to pursue.
Fear. It paralyzes people from living out their truest potential. What perpetuates fear? Certainly not reality. It's the internal dialogue we all experience-the negative self talk. Here are some common phrases that I've collected from people who've told me what they oftentimes find themselves saying to and about themselves. Do you recognize any of them?
"I can't do that" or "I could never do that"
"I'm too old"
"I'll end up giving in just like all the other times"
"I've just got too much on my plate"
"I could never be that good"
These phrases have kept people from greatness. I hate thinking about all the people out there who have passed on without experiencing that great potential within them. One of my favorite quotes is one I heard from a speaker to whom I love to listen, Les Brown. Les put it this way,
“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry our their dream.”
As you read this, what are you feeling? Are you experiencing negative self-talk? Self-doubt? Are you saying to yourself, "He's right. I need to turn this around." Well, let me admit to you this. I, too, catch myself saying negative things to myself on occasion. These have become fleeting thoughts by now though. I hear them, I acknowledge them as lies, and then I continue to kick ass. I REFUSE to doubt myself. I know they're lies, because I've proven to myself that I'm better than the negative thoughts have tried to lead me to believe. (I'll tell you a brief story in just a minute.)
YOU are better than the lies you tell yourself. You just have to do a couple things to get past them. So, pay VERY close attention. These are the ABCs of Overpowering Your Negative Self-Talk:
1. When you hear negative self-talk, you need to recognize it as such. "WHOA! This is just negative self-talk."
2. Take hold and take control of the negative self-talk. "This negative self-talk is a lie and I don't have to believe it."
3.Spin it around into a statement that is positive and empowering. "I CAN do that!" or "I'm fully capable!" or "I got this!"
4.Now is the time to take action. It's been said that 80% of our thoughts are negative and the more time we spend thinking about it the more we will focus on probability instead of possiblity. Now's the time to go after it.
I have a confession. I used to be terrified of getting up in front of people to talk. I mean SUPER nervous. You wouldn't believe the negative self-talk coming into my head!
One day I saw a guy, who I am now grateful to call my friend. His name is Michael Callejas. The first time I heard him speak, I thought to myself, "I could listen to this guy ALL DAY LONG!" What a great compliment that is, right? I really could, even today, listen to him all day long. He's amazing to listen to on stage. I thought, "One day I hope someone will say that about me." Although I had a fear of speaking in front of people, I was determined to ditch the negative self-talk and overcome this fear.
Fast forward three years. I was invited to speak at an industry training event in Houston, TX. It was packed! By the way, I was not the keynote speaker. After I got finished with my talk, the keynote speaker came and met me down at the front of the room as everyone was leaving for a break and said to me, "That was great! I could listen to you ALL DAY LONG." At this point my
wife was beside me. We looked at each other (She knew about my feelings on this). My eyes literally started tearing up. I had to quickly, but gracefully, excuse myself so I could regain my composure.
Over those previous three years, I literally talked myself into believing I was a great speaker, and AMAZING SPEAKER (That's what I would continually tell myself).
The reason I tell you this is because you need to know WORDS HAVE WEIGHT. What you tell yourself is what you will bring about. Decartes, a philosopher, made a statement you've probably heard, "I think therefore I am." This is ABSOLUTELY TRUE. The words you tell yourself can make you or break you.
I want to challenge you today to start using the ABCs of Overpowering Your Negative Self-Talk DAILY. Begin talking positive to yourself all the time. Begin listening to positive audios. Begin watching positive YouTube videos. You WILL begin to see your life change right before your eyes.
Thanks for taking the time to read my blog. Time is our greatest asset and we can never get it back, and I appreciate it. I want to leave you with a quick video to watch and one of my most favorite quotes by the late great Zig Ziglar,
“You Were Designed for Accomplishment, Engineered for Success and Endowed with the Seeds of Greatness!”
Do yourself a favor and watch this for 10 minutes every day for 7 days...